On Sunday night we had a good chat with my dad. He was quite surprised at what had been happening.
I am now happy with the situation because I know that my dad is happy with the way things are.
I think my brother is try to do his 'big brother I am a manager, and I am taking charge' routine. Frankly if he gets too pushy then I will have to tell him to bog off.
Just because he is my elder brother and a manager doesent mean he is right !!